Showing love is an essential part of love. As the old saying goes, “Love isn’t love until you give it away”. I believe that love needs to be both spoken and shown. I believe one goes with the other, creating the complete and total package, leaving no room for doubt. Such as love is, it needs to be expressed.
June 6th, Bill & I mark our 31st wedding anniversary. Long before we married, we were platonic friends. However, even then, we had a mutual love and respect for each other. We listened to each other, sharing thoughts, ideas, and time together. When we parted, he would kiss me on the check and we would hug. We loved each other as friends.
Even now, all of these years later, we still find ways to show our love. We always tell each other, every day. It is important to verbalize it, and it is important to hear it. We say it, email it, and text it. It is important to both of us to say it and to hear it. The words are reassuring, especially when it is all you have at the time. With Bill being an over the road trucker, those words are what keep us going until we can be together again.
Of course, we show our love in many ways. The support Bill has given me throughout my health issues is invaluable to me. I could not do this without his love and support. The monthly cost and logistics of traveling to and from Arizona (Mayo), and the various physical limitations this has put upon me and our lives has been extremely hard. Yet, Bill is there for me, telling me that I can do this, we can do this. Knowing I have his love and support motivates me to keep going. Knowing he believes in me makes me feel loved, and makes me want to make sure he feels loved and appreciated, in return.
I have always made it a priority to show and tell him he is loved. I support whatever he does, be it career, hobby, professional or personal. I believe in him. I tell him, and I show him in whatever way I can. That’s what love does; it makes you want to be and do more for the other person. It is the little things, and the big things. It is both. Loving means being there in the way that the other needs you to be, even when it may be inconvenient or difficult.
Love is about both saying it and showing it, bringing it full circle, leaving no doubt. I need to do both, and I appreciate when both are returned. This holds true because love is a gift…the greatest one to give and to receive.
June 1982, 1st anniversary