A Loving Match

Showing love is an essential part of love. As the old saying goes, “Love isn’t love until you give it away”. I believe that love needs to be both spoken and shown. I believe one goes with the other, creating the complete and total package, leaving no room for doubt. Such as love is, it needs to be expressed. 
June 6th, Bill & I marked our 33rd wedding anniversary. Long before we married, we were platonic friends. However, even then we had a mutual love and respect for each other. We listened to each other, sharing thoughts, ideas, and time together. When we parted, he would kiss me on the check and we would hug. We loved each other as friends. 
Even now, all of these years later, we still find ways to show our love. We always tell each other; every day we say it several times. It is important to verbalize it, and it is important to hear it. We say it, email it, and text it. It is important to both of us to say it and to hear it. The words are reassuring, especially when it is all you have at the time. With Bill being an over the road trucker, those words are what keep us going until we can be together again.
Of course, we show our love in many ways. The support Bill has given me throughout my health issues has been  invaluable to me. I could not do it without his love and support. The cost, logistics, and the various physical limitations this has put upon me and our lives has been extremely hard. Yet, Bill is always there for me, telling me that I can do this, we can do this. Knowing I have his love and support motivates me to keep going. Knowing he believes in me makes me feel loved, and makes me want to make sure he feels loved and appreciated, in return.
I have always made it a priority to show and tell him he is loved. I support whatever he does, be it career, hobby, professional or personal. I believe in him. I tell him, and I show him in whatever way I can. That’s what love does; it makes you want to be and do more for the other person. It is the little things and the big things. It is both. Loving means being there in the way that the other needs you to be, even when it may be inconvenient or difficult. 
Love is about saying it and showing it, bringing it full circle, leaving no doubt. I need to do both, and I appreciate when both are returned. This holds true because love is a gift…the greatest one to give and to receive.

We believe that God made this match. we continue to match our love, too. Bill and I celebrated our 33rd anniversary on June 6th, 2014. This post was originally published June 2012, for our 31st anniversary. I have revised it here.

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Prompt: “Match”

25 thoughts on “A Loving Match

  1. It is clear beyond a doubt that you and Bill are not only the perfect match, but a match that is God ordained. You have always been there for each other, through the happy times and the hard times. It is obvious both in your words and in your lives that your love remains strong and grows stronger. It is a model for successful marriage that others should take note of. I like how you stress the importance of both showing love and saying I love you. We do both too, daily, always. Too often you hear people with regrets saying “I hope he knew how much I loved him.” You leave no room for doubt. 33 years is an amazing accomplishment in today's world, I wish you many, many more together!


  2. Many people find it difficult to express love in words or actions and it gets passed on to the next generation. Wonderful to know there are some like you guts out there. Happy Anniversary!


  3. What a beautiful post. The two of you are very fortunate to have found and held on to each other. Congrats on the 33!
    I really love this part: 'That's what love does; it makes you want to be and do more for the other person. It is the little things and the big things. It is both.'


  4. 33 years is something to be proud of and I love to hear that you two have such a special, loving bond. You stayed friends even after you got married and that's really important in my book. Congratulations!


  5. The fact that you two have been together, as friends and lovers, husband and wife for over 33 years is phenomenal these days!!

    I loved reading this.

    And a belated Happy Anniversary.


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